Have you ever felt as if your kids, adult or not, seem to ‘scheme’? That’s because they are. They have pitted a war against their own parents, and I have to wonder if they really know what they are doing or why. Are they led by their own frustrations of being parented by Christians OR are they led by something more sinister? The kids will tell you it’s all the parents fault but the truth is even though they try to be a united front against us, they are fighting a real war against God with the devil himself:
And they said, “Come, let us build ourselves a city, and a tower whose top is in the heavens; let us make a name for ourselves, lest we be scattered abroad over the face of the whole earth.” Genesis 11:4
Have you noticed that adult kids demand restitution rather than being gently led with a patient hand? Maybe money talks, but not in my house. IF we had all the money in the world we would not buy their love and respect.
Money is usually the common denominator of their troubles; they don’t have it because they are living for themselves and against God…and somehow it’s our fault. To that I say this: If money were NOT the issue, then what is keeping you from being the loving son/daughter to us like you used to be? [Can you tell I used to be in sales?] So then, son/daughter, what IS that ‘one thing’ keeping you from being a family with us? Excuses, excuses.
Since the beginning of time, children took care of their ailing and elderly parents. It was a cohesive unit rather than prison. I would count it an honor to take care of my parents! Can you imagine giving back to them for what they gave? And if there were trouble, the ability and OPPORTUNITY to forgive and GIVE: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself‘, Mark 12:31.
There may be a war, but we have to deal with this one battle at a time; the battle today will be different than the battle tomorrow. Still they look upon us as the enemy even though we love them through everything they make us deal with. I don’t know about you, but our own enemies don’t treat us this badly.
Pray that adult children will return to their first love rather than chasing shadows.